Is your ocean half full or half empty

from Jan

Usually when we think of something being half full versus half empty, we feel like “half full” is the more optimistic choice.  This summer, I’ve come to learn a different perspective of that dichotomy.  If something is half empty, doesn’t that give us the opportunity to fill it up?  Do our expectations close us off to experiences?  Or, is it OK to do something and just see where it takes you…if it takes you anywhere?  To just enjoy the ride. 

This summer, we spent a lot of time digging in the sand and throwing sand in the ocean.  Joshua, our digger/scooper extraordinaire, was a bit intimidated by the ocean at the beginning of the summer.  During our first trip to the beach, our annual “we can’t wait any longer to go to the beach trip” at the beginning of May, we got to the beach, walked about 7 inches into the sand, and he would be close enough to the water for his comfort.   Digging with many different vehicles and shovels would occupy us for several hours.  During our second trip, we got a little closer to the water, but the same situation occurred.   

 Over the next few weeks, we spent more time in the “kids” pool at home and became comfortable in the shallow water.  Lucky for us, it was time for another trip to the beach.  This one was a day trip to a Chesapeake Bay beach.  The water was calmer, the waves smaller.  And, that is where it happened.  Joshua decided the ocean needed more sand!  So, we marched ourselves down to the water’s edge and did our environmental service for the day, spending hours throwing sand into the ocean.  Then, Joshua decided the ocean was missing one other thing…him! 

We capped off our beachy summer with a week in Cape May, NJ.  Our favorite east coast beach destination.  Joshua started off the week earnestly throwing sand in the ocean and ended the week by throwing himself in the ocean waves, giggling the whole way! 

And, that is what our site, life is comfy, is all about.  Finding ways to make whatever choices you have, whether they be positive or negative, more comfy while not thinking about traditional ways of viewing a situation but your way of viewing the situation.  Challenging yourself to redefine what it means to be “half full” or “half empty.”  Taking time to figure out what works and not worry what other people would choose in the same situation.  It took a whole summer for Joshua to get comfortable in those big, loud ocean waves.  But, what was the hurry?  We were having fun and he was expanding his comfy in his own way, step by step, redefining his comfort and definition of the situation.  Admittedly, now I have some comfy work to do before next summer:  how can I be comfortable with my son flinging himselfwithout a care in the world, into the ocean?!?!